"I've lost my respect for you." Ouch. A phrase DEFINITELY not to be use way too often.
I believe such a dictum does not only degrades a person, it has to be a slap of realisation of some sort for the person uttered to.
To have it directed towards yourself from someone you care about, the moment felt like a sandcastle being washed away by the coming tide. From something you worked so hard to sustain, it crumbles and get swept away in a second.
Personally, to each his/her own. One man's meat is another man's poison I guess.
Back during my army days, respect was everything. You never want to be that person who is not respected or the at the very least feared. As a commander, it is respect that keeps the whole company, platoon or section moving. I believe in every commander, there is a worry whether one day one of their men were to approach them and say, 'I do not respect you.' Because when one has lost respect for their leader, they tend to influence the rest and you will end up fighting the war alone or even worse get shot behind by your own people. Even before you fight a battle, you have already lost.
Indeed I worry. I worried alot. I was afraid that one day if my men were to disrepect me and I lost my grip on them, they would have made my days in the army one of the most difficult times in my life.
I repeat. Never... never have your men lose their respect for you.
Now I understood how it difficult it was to be an instructor- a friend - a teacher - brothers in arms.
I had a conversation with this teacher from a Secondary School of late. And she was surprised at how well a young person like me understand the quandries of an educator. I cited memories back when I was in school and how little respect I showed my Malay teacher. How underserving of her to be mistreated by my daily verbal incitations.
Such a difficult student I was.
7 years later I understand how it feels not to be given the respect from my own students. How painstalking it is earn their respect and build the trust and how easy it is to lose all that by utterring 5 words - I've lost my respect for you.
And so where do we go with this...
Nothing much.Just do what we do best with the best of our ability and with alot of sincerity.
In the words of the teacher I had a conversation with:
'We are lucky if we have at least ONE of our students appreciating all the work we have done.'
Mimin's Current Thought:
Mimin's Gearing For:
105 days to a new journey in my life.
University of Queensland.
Bachelor of Arts.
Mimin's Missing:
Fatin Nadia. Neeta Rajwani Ishwardas. Tjut Roslinda. Nur Amalyna. Siti Adibah. Vanessa John. Ambika Bajaj. Bandhna Kaur Bajaj.
Mimin's Praying for:
Sharifah Mahani Alhabsyee.
